FebulousFebruary 2026: The Old Photograph

Day three

Lost and found

Spending over the last 40 years+ trying to fit into various relationships at work and in my personal life I think I have finally found a ‘better’ me.  

Not necessarily ‘better’ to others maybe, but someone who has found out that she needs to choose herself and her needs first.  

I was lost and like the ‘poor relative’, surrounded by narcissistic (even toxic) people.  

In more recent times, I have opted to withdraw. 

I was lost; 

lost in a desire to please and rescue; 

a true co-dependant; 

saying yes to all and sundry, and always doing what I could to ‘impress’.  

I have now found a better me.  

I know I am worth all the effort I pour into myself.  

I know I still care, still want to please, but only if it suits.   

Who cares what people truly think of me? 

If I love you then I love you with my whole heart but that heart is now ruled a bit better by my head.

Anne Lamb, Kent

Day two

Lost and Found

One day I lost my inside smile.

I still knew how to do the outside bit.

How to move my lips

into a curve

but I couldn’t make it reach my eyes.

On another day

after no longer than forever

I felt it creeping about

looking here and there to find the way

and when it reached my eyes

I had found it again.

Megan Williams, Wales

Day one

Lost and Found

The loves I lost,

To days darkened by shadows.

The smell of oil paint, 

The texture on canvas.

The loves I lost, 

To days marked by sorrow,

The quiet word,

A touch of prose.

The loves I gained,

Through healing and strength.

A painting almost complete,

Some prose near finished.

The loves I gained,

Through slow meditation.

Practising an art,

Forming a poem.

To the loves I have always had,

May you remain warm and soft,

May you be in my heart,

And at home at my hearth.

Lauren Marie, Christchurch, Aotearoa

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Day twenty nine

Meeting myself 

Picture this:

A soggy Saturday afternoon, October, 

A child, my younger self, so young, 

in tortured ratty plaits,

Patched jeans tucked into muddy wellingtons 

Framed in a doorway like an advert for Persil

Smiling your delight

Cherish that

Back from a clay happy morning in the fields

Following the grumbling plough

Along arrow straight furrows

Teams of children and mothers – not yours!

Digging in the wet heavy Earth,

Gathering caked potatoes into dirty baskets.

Tattie picking we called it –

Savour the joy of small things child,

Remember that

Enjoy the mucky everydayness of 

Of working in the mud

with your village pals

calling and teasing, competing – 

The companionship of hard work

enjoy the dirty smear on your nose

And the mud on your hands

And the dampness of the Autumn air on your skin

Treasure that.

Enjoy what came before your world

Exploded into chaos

And your family split apart

Into separate tiny atoms

Never to be whole again

You will despair, and lose each other in the debris

But time will teach you how to find 

Each other once again

Remember that.

You were bold and brave

And troublesome

In those younger days 

It had to be you, they’d say,

And that is who you’ll stay

Fighting for what you care about,

Marching chanting singing your protest

Shoulder to shoulder –

There’s family in that

You’ll grieve and hold yourself tight inside

You’ll bury your face in many pillows

The terror of trusting will haunt your days

But you will rise again

I promise you…

You’ll be bold and brave

And troublesome again

And your chosen family 

Will love you for that

Just remember that alone 

Can be a healing place

A place to watch sparrows

And breathe the creamy scent

Of February blackthorn blossom

Alone can bring the quiet

That will give you back 

To yourself again

Hold onto that

Val Johnson                      Feb 2024

Herne Bay

Day twenty eight

TOMBOY – By Jacqui Soo, a proud Scouser.

“You’ll never make a lady out of that one” uttered my paternal grandmother to my Mother when I was aged about 3.

How right she was. I am the only girl with four brothers. Second born and teacher to the younger three lads (and subsequently, most of their mates). It was I – not the eldest – who took them for their first pint, to the match for the first time and educated them on how to treat a girl when taking her on a date. And it was me, not the boys, who was the best footballer, so said my Dad.

I was his chippy’s mate and hod carrier and I loved mixing cement with my Dad. The viscosity was mesmerising. So much better than making batter for Yorkshire puddings. “Please Mum, don’t make me make the gravy” I pleaded on a Sunday. It is a sacrilege to make lumpy gravy and I couldn’t quite understand the alchemy involved in producing a smooth gravy from meat drippings and Burdall’s gravy salt.

They are all jealous of my footballer’s legs with chunky calves and thick, muscular thighs. But that wasn’t an accident either. From the Summer I left junior school in 1973, I started work on a milk round. 7 days a week for thirty bob. Carrying a full crate of milk from the 14th floor of a tower block down to each level gave me forearms like hams. Then there was the swimming and the hockey, netball, rounders and athletics. I was the typical all rounder. I insisted on wearing shorts. No skirts even on the sports field. My Mum even wrote me a note to excuse me from wearing a skirt to school. I hated them with a vengeance.

My Mum refused to buy me monkey boots as an 11 year old so with my wages from the milk, I bought my own. Maroon with yellow stitching. I loved them. A forerunner to my love affair with DM’s. I kept the receipt from my first pair of branded jeans. Wranglers costing £6.99 from All Mankind when I was 13. Then came the denim jacket. All that was missing from my life was a motorbike. I’m saving that for my mid-life crisis!

I love being a tomboy. It liberated me. I didn’t care if people thought I was a lad. I never wanted to be one though, I liked being a girl.

But then I grew my hair. It was after a kd lang concert where every dyke had the same haircut! This was before the variety of styles a la Beckham. So now, it’s down to my waist. I love it. It’s wild and wavy and full of all of the colours of my varied ancestry. I am a Mermaid.

I shocked my Mum in 2005 when out shopping with her. I bought a pink dress. A tomboy dress though. “I have great legs Mum and this will show them off.” Short sleeves to display my firm biceps and forearms and short enough to see the thunder thighs. Full length zipper to reveal a lovely cleavage (good bras are essential). And, to compliment the look, steel toe capped DM boots.

Butch Barbie was born.

Day twenty seven

To My Childhood Self

You remember the Russian Dolls don’t you? You played with them often when you were little, opening them, lining them up, then putting them all back one inside the other, the tiny baby, the small girl, the teenager, the woman. It was just a game then, one you played alongside climbing trees, playing cricket with the boys, walking along the tops of high walls. You were brave, you were strong, you were a warrior.

Although you didn’t know it you would change the world, not single handed but collectively with your tribe. You would learn to stand up for what is right; to refuse to conform to what was expected of a young ‘lady’, to find your own path. There would be many twists and turns on that path, many dead ends. There will be battles to fight and wrongs to overcome, never shirk them, never turn your back and walk away. Be brave, be strong, be the warrior.

You’ll love learning and will absorb information like a sponge but nothing intellectual can prepare you for the rejection by your first love that will cut you to the quick. She was older and you worshipped her but she moved on. Others would take her place and you will break hearts yourself, until one day the love of your life will shatter yours into a million pieces. The pain will stay with you forever but eventually you’ll forgive her and yourself. For you are brave, you are strong, you are a warrior.

Look at your hands, though you don’t know it yet they will hold babies whom you will nurture. Those hands will help the passage out of this life of two close friends and they will bring your granddaughter into the world. They will comfort friends who in turn will comfort you. They will build and they will create. You will save a life and in turn your life will be saved, people will depend on you and you will not let them down because you are brave, you are strong and you are a warrior.

As you grow watch your body change, be proud of it but don’t worry what others think. Your body is built to carry you through your journey. Yes it needs nurture, yes it will need repair sometimes, but it doesn’t need adornment it is perfect as it is. Learn to love yourself, not in an arrogant way but in knowing that you are important, your presence was meant to be. Stand tall and look ahead but be aware of each moment, life will pass by in a heartbeat.

One day you will be me, the Babushka, the grandmother, the biggest of all the dolls and inside you will be all the others. You will contain them and help the next young lives to grow. If you look behind you will see the footprints in the wet sand where you have walked, just waiting for the next incoming tide to wash them away. Hold my hand little warrior and be brave.

Kate Field

Day twenty six

Come, sit by the fire 

It’s only me. 

Others said to say sorry but 

they had to leave. 

They made a good 

fire though. 

And in the morning, 

We’ll grab some breakfast, 

Maybe we’ll go for a swim. 

The water is cold

 around here. 

You won’t like it. 

But once you are in, it’s fine.

I just run straight in sometimes. 

Make sure you live by 

the sea. 

I miss it. 

You will.

…

Anyway, see how you feel in 

the morning. 

Whatever we do, we’ll enjoy 

our time together. 

I like you. 

I mean, I don’t like 

everything you do 

but, on the whole, I like you. 

Very much. 

… 

The others? 

They will come back. 

Well, some will. 

So will some new ones. 

Ah, they come and go. 

And that’s fine. 

It’s alright when there is no one. 

You can be with your self. 

Be. 

Once you are, it’s fine. 

And now that we met, 

When the being gets

 too much, 

We’ll find each other again, 

and, if you want, the others 

will find us, too. 

… 

Marshmallow? 

Ece Ozdemiroglu

London

Day twenty five

‘There’s a right and a wrong way to do everything  and you’ll always do it the wrong way’

Thanks hen for drawing attention to yourself and standing out in a crowd your glow in all your glory has speckled my glittery path to now.

Thanks hen for sticking your neck out paving my way to circle the base…take the toys from the boys…and reclaim the night. 

Thanks hen for not ‘hauding your wheest’ as your voice has helped me connect with my tribe speak out for injustice, heal in talking therapy.

Thanks hen for not always pulling your socks up. Your socks are fine, just fine, round your ankles. You’ve been having fun knocking doors and running away, racing others round the block on your bike. Your socks are fine, just fine, one up, one down

Climbing trees and the primary school wall where you invented walking the plank all along its narrow, nobbly stretch  forming the firm stepping stones  to my fun-filled life to the courageous steps I’ve taken and to the leading roles I’ve comfortably adopted.

And they did give you something to cry about, hen.   More than they ever knew.

Thanks hen for keeping the ember of resistance glowing in your depths. 

Thanks hen for keeping your fire of rage burning in your heart.

Your defiant agency has brought me to the water’s edge to shed my sea of tears  to shed my layers of fear to dive in and swim towards the shiny new day dawning on the horizon.

Thanks hen.

Fiona Thomson, Westgate