The prospect of coming out whether young or old is a daunting one. It is the point in which we are committed, prepared, psyched up for telling our loved ones, our friends, our world how we feel, who we are, something that defines us, it is a scary moment that we have to go through just to be us.
So that day comes and we do it, we feel petrified yet proud, some of us get a negative reaction some of us a positive one.
I am one of the lucky ones in which my family and most of my friends were great, they were positive, supportive and happy for me, the way we would hope all our families to be. For many we lose our families our friends our homes, the experience can be devastating and for what? Loving someone, being ourselves!
Down the line it hasn’t been easy; we think we have come out, job done? No!
Every day we have to come out in some way, whether it is from that glare from across the street, stare from behind a counter. The constant feeling that I have to identify who I am to you!
I have had my fair share of abuse, verbal and physical just because someone didn’t like the look of me, because I am me a lesbian.
Yes I am me and with that come so much, much more than what you see or think you see.
So take time to think when did you choose to be a heterosexual? Was it a hard choice? Was it easy to tell everyone? Does it affect you every day?
I work specifically with LGBT young people and want to say from the bottom of my heart they should be so proud of who they are and for coming out in such a hateful world.
So please homophobes, haters, in the words of Heather small “what have you done today to make you feel proud”?
Tell you what I did, I came out!
Hayley Rees, 32, out n proud lesbian from Herne Bay, Kent