celebrating and creating our own LGBT history

day five

The Fat Queer’s Statement 2012: a path to wellbeing

 

Don’t assume  my partner is fat
Don’t assume  I eat too much
Don’t assume  I want a diet coke
Don’t assume  I am unfit
Don’t assume  I always want to eat sweets
Don’t assume  I want to lose weight
Don’t assume  you won’t fit next to me on the bus
Don’t assume  I want to be told to lose weight every time I see a health   professional
Don’t assume  I don’t know what’s best for me
Don’t assume  I don’t have feelings
Don’t assume  I don’t know what I look like
Don’t assume  every fat person is the same
Don’t assume  I eat junk food all the time
Don’t assume  that my BMI matters to me
Don’t assume  that my every medical problem is related to my weight
Don’t assume  I’m pregnant
Don’t assume  I want to eat less and exercise more
Don’t assume  I’m lazy
Don’t assume  I want to hear about another diet
Don’t assume  that I’m carrying unresolved emotional stuff
Don’t assume  that you’re right and I’m wrong
Don’t assume  that you’re better than me because you’re thinner than me
Don’t assume  I’m unhealthy
Don’t assume  I can’t look gorgeous
Don’t assume I don’t date thinner people
Don’t assume  that I have the same choices as you
Don’t assume  I always want to shop online
Don’t assume  I always want seconds
Don’t assume  I want to look like you
Don’t assume  I don’t want to fuck your brains out
Don’t assume  thinner people don’t find me hot
Don’t assume  I haven’t been airbrushed
Don’t assume  my weight is not a side-effect of medication
Don’t assume  we are not the majority
Don’t assume  I’m a failed heterosexual
Don’t assume  I did this to myself
Don’t assume  that I ascribe to a western idea of beauty
Don’t assume  that I am undisciplined
Don’t assume  that I am over-indulgent
Don’t assume  weight issues are all about size
Don’t assume  I’m depressed
Don’t assume  I want a gastric band
Don’t assume  I want frills, diamante or baggy clothes
Don’t assume  I don’t jog every morning
Don’t assume  I don’t find fat people attractive
Don’t assume  I have stretch marks
Don’t assume  my weight loss was intentional
Don’t assume  I want to pay for 2 seats on a plane
Don’t assume  I don’t want to wear a fitted T-Shirt
Don’t assume  I’m a bad parent
Don’t assume  I have an eating disorder
Don’t assume  I don’t have an eating disorder
Don’t assume  I want to join weight watchers
Don’t assume  I don’t think I’m beautiful
Don’t assume  I love McDonalds
Don’t assume  I don’t eat healthily
Don’t assume  you don’t want sex with me
Don’t assume  I’m always hungry
Don’t assume  I don’t like my body
Don’t assume  I’m always happy
Don’t assume  I’m lonely
Don’t assume  I want surgery
Don’t assume  I want to talk about slimming
Don’t assume  I don’t like cock
Don’t assume  that, given the choice, I’d be thin
Don’t assume  I’m out of control
Don’t assume  I want to wear navy, black and brown.
Don’t assume  my fat isn’t genetic
Don’t assume  I’m obsessed with food and eating
Don’t assume  my fat has psychological roots
Don’t assume

 

Sheree Bell et al

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Comments on: "day five" (3)

  1. Fantastic, I can really identify with this as a person who has been both ‘too fat’ and ‘too thin’. It highlights very well that a lot of people are made to feel imperfect.

  2. Sheree Bell said:

    This wonderful piece was the result of a workshop I ran at the 2012 LGBT health conference in Canterbury. In that workshop we built on ‘The Fat Dykes Statement’ which came out of another workshop I ran at the first (and only) National Fat Women’s Conference in the 1980s.

  3. This has made my day! Love it x

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