The Fat Queer’s Statement 2012: a path to wellbeing
| Don’t assume | my partner is fat |
| Don’t assume | I eat too much |
| Don’t assume | I want a diet coke |
| Don’t assume | I am unfit |
| Don’t assume | I always want to eat sweets |
| Don’t assume | I want to lose weight |
| Don’t assume | you won’t fit next to me on the bus |
| Don’t assume | I want to be told to lose weight every time I see a health professional |
| Don’t assume | I don’t know what’s best for me |
| Don’t assume | I don’t have feelings |
| Don’t assume | I don’t know what I look like |
| Don’t assume | every fat person is the same |
| Don’t assume | I eat junk food all the time |
| Don’t assume | that my BMI matters to me |
| Don’t assume | that my every medical problem is related to my weight |
| Don’t assume | I’m pregnant |
| Don’t assume | I want to eat less and exercise more |
| Don’t assume | I’m lazy |
| Don’t assume | I want to hear about another diet |
| Don’t assume | that I’m carrying unresolved emotional stuff |
| Don’t assume | that you’re right and I’m wrong |
| Don’t assume | that you’re better than me because you’re thinner than me |
| Don’t assume | I’m unhealthy |
| Don’t assume | I can’t look gorgeous |
| Don’t assume | I don’t date thinner people |
| Don’t assume | that I have the same choices as you |
| Don’t assume | I always want to shop online |
| Don’t assume | I always want seconds |
| Don’t assume | I want to look like you |
| Don’t assume | I don’t want to fuck your brains out |
| Don’t assume | thinner people don’t find me hot |
| Don’t assume | I haven’t been airbrushed |
| Don’t assume | my weight is not a side-effect of medication |
| Don’t assume | we are not the majority |
| Don’t assume | I’m a failed heterosexual |
| Don’t assume | I did this to myself |
| Don’t assume | that I ascribe to a western idea of beauty |
| Don’t assume | that I am undisciplined |
| Don’t assume | that I am over-indulgent |
| Don’t assume | weight issues are all about size |
| Don’t assume | I’m depressed |
| Don’t assume | I want a gastric band |
| Don’t assume | I want frills, diamante or baggy clothes |
| Don’t assume | I don’t jog every morning |
| Don’t assume | I don’t find fat people attractive |
| Don’t assume | I have stretch marks |
| Don’t assume | my weight loss was intentional |
| Don’t assume | I want to pay for 2 seats on a plane |
| Don’t assume | I don’t want to wear a fitted T-Shirt |
| Don’t assume | I’m a bad parent |
| Don’t assume | I have an eating disorder |
| Don’t assume | I don’t have an eating disorder |
| Don’t assume | I want to join weight watchers |
| Don’t assume | I don’t think I’m beautiful |
| Don’t assume | I love McDonalds |
| Don’t assume | I don’t eat healthily |
| Don’t assume | you don’t want sex with me |
| Don’t assume | I’m always hungry |
| Don’t assume | I don’t like my body |
| Don’t assume | I’m always happy |
| Don’t assume | I’m lonely |
| Don’t assume | I want surgery |
| Don’t assume | I want to talk about slimming |
| Don’t assume | I don’t like cock |
| Don’t assume | that, given the choice, I’d be thin |
| Don’t assume | I’m out of control |
| Don’t assume | I want to wear navy, black and brown. |
| Don’t assume | my fat isn’t genetic |
| Don’t assume | I’m obsessed with food and eating |
| Don’t assume | my fat has psychological roots |
| Don’t assume |
Sheree Bell et al
FebulousFebruary 2025: Lost and Found 
Comments on: "day five" (3)
Fantastic, I can really identify with this as a person who has been both ‘too fat’ and ‘too thin’. It highlights very well that a lot of people are made to feel imperfect.
This wonderful piece was the result of a workshop I ran at the 2012 LGBT health conference in Canterbury. In that workshop we built on ‘The Fat Dykes Statement’ which came out of another workshop I ran at the first (and only) National Fat Women’s Conference in the 1980s.
This has made my day! Love it x